Memoir as Revenge

What should we do when we want revenge in memoir?

 One thing I would caution you not to write about or do is revenge. It is never okay to write for the public with the motive of revenge. Write your own revenge thoughts in a/your journal for yourself to vent your feelings. Revenge seems to come back to you one way or another: the other will see it and be unnecessarily angry, even justifiably angry, or you’ll move past those feelings and wish you hadn’t published such anger. It’s ok to feel that way as part of your beginning healing process but to write it in first person may hurt you in the long run. And the other.

Write a short story fiction about the incident or short story somewhat fictional tale and send these out for publication. Keep the true facts and people and incident private if the motivation is to hurt someone else. Continue reading “Memoir as Revenge” »

Ordinary Life into Memoir A Plus

Readers are interested in how ordinary people solved a situation and made “good” of it. Famous is fine to read but it’s people like the reader that they can best relate to.

For those of us who live ordinary lives but something happened that seems extra- ordinary, you may decide to write a memoir of what you learned from the experience.  You need to decide when the experience really started and what time period you want to cover. Continue reading “Ordinary Life into Memoir A Plus” »

An Alternative Way to Write a Memoir/Journal Keeping

Salt and Paper: 65 Candles 

A daily reflection that is immediate and an accumulation of life experience in poetry and prose fragments placing a heartfelt yet realistic light on difficult subjects as the author speaks of aging: a friend’s slow demise with Alzheimer’s; the life-long effect of a brother’s mental illness; the present, lived aging process; the interlacing of four generations—and the creative writing life that responds with compassion, humor, and art. Continue reading “An Alternative Way to Write a Memoir/Journal Keeping” »

Writer’s Block Need Not Stop You

Memoir holds some special reasons that might make you, as a writer, feel you are blocked.

Depending on how personal your story may be, you may feel vulnerable or guilty about writing about yourself and others. Some writers have the concern of wanting to reveal vulnerable parts of themselves and yet have another part of themselves that wants to conceal their internal dilemmas. Having written revealing poetry and a memoir, I understand this. There were behaviors and events in my story that I thought would help others reading it. Continue reading “Writer’s Block Need Not Stop You” »

Confessional Style of Writing

Some intellectuals put down the personal or feeling modes of writing. However, there is a place for the confessional style of writing no matter what these literary lions say. Just look at the growth of memoir! People are hungry for personal stories that tell them how you coped with a certain problem or a problem they are coping with. Readers learn from reading others living seemingly ordinary lives who come to some sort of crossroads or we wouldn’t have memoirs that sell. Continue reading “Confessional Style of Writing” »

Contribution as a Reason to Motivate Writing (A Memoir)

Some writers find the motivation to write a memoir by their belief their story will help others. That sense of contribution can really help keep the writer connected to the reader by including only what the reader needs to know about their situation. Also, to contribute is to help another see not your pain but how you got out of a certain feeling, situation, what your turning point happened to be. Continue reading “Contribution as a Reason to Motivate Writing (A Memoir)” »

Writing Groups

I have been in various writing groups over the past twenty-five years. Some have been very helpful while others have hurt my writing and probably my feelings too which almost made me lose my motivation to continue.

I am lucky I am  a person who will hang in and try to see if the group can work for me imperfectly. I’d ask myself what would I get out of it, not what I thought I need. Let’s try it that way for awhile. For instance, I joined in with group of  long-term male writers whom I had  admired for their activist work with good meaningful subjects in their work. In the group were some men who  wrote in an organized linear way. It worked for them and I liked their work too. Continue reading “Writing Groups” »

How to Motivate to Write and Keep Writing

This post continues from the one before. I have to say that there are times I have been too busy to write with a child or my day job, family or social plans. Sometimes all my time goes into the business side of queries, proposals, agents, editor like the last book that was published, Stirring the Waters. We spent months on the unusual editing. It had to be read aloud to hear the music and if the beat was correct. In the no writing times, I consider it a break from the essential part that I love in order to balance my life with other things that call. Continue reading “How to Motivate to Write and Keep Writing” »

Writing All the Time?

There are times I have been too busy to write with a child or my day job, family or social plans. Sometimes all my time goes into the business side of queries, proposals, agents,working with an editor or promotion and planning. The last book of mine that was published, Stirring the Waters took a lot of editing and agreement, back and forth, between the editor and myself.  We spent months on the unusual editing. It had to be read aloud to hear the music and if the beat was correct. Continue reading “Writing All the Time?” »

How to Motivate Writing and Continue Writing

1. Others Can Help You Write

Just as in exercise or weight loss, you’ll do better if you have a partner or someone to report your process to. It helps to feel accountable for what you said you’d do. There have been times all I could do was write one piece for my writing group or write list of characters and their description when partnering with a friend. You can use a writing coach to help you; she can help you for an hour in time of need so you can move on.  You only really need one person to be on your side encouraging you. If the first page is too blank, start on page two.

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