Loose Endings in Memoir

In life we often have loose ends in our story. Nothing is really resolved. Things go on anyway. People come in and out of our life and we don’t do much to hold them because we are distracted or don’t care that much. Events come and go and we mean to participate again but we have a knee injury or time goes by too quickly to do it again. So much is started and drifts away. Much is said but not done. We are busy and let things be. We follow up on thoughts and ideas and sometimes, we don’t. In more recent  fiction this is shown and called an open endings toan event, thought, idea. We don’t know what happened to that person and what changed her mind. Continue reading “Loose Endings in Memoir” »

Counseling Medical Problems Give Meaning to Memoir

In the last few months I have worked using hypnotherapy and counseling to help with the emotional part of pain and illness. We never create illness but there is always an emotional component and this is the component we can lighten or eliminate. There was a student who started to be afraid to fly and needed to do so for her research. Using hypnosis there were two stark memories of losing someone suddenly. Not to plane crashes but instantly. The sorrow and fear had transferred to flying. Continue reading “Counseling Medical Problems Give Meaning to Memoir” »

Writing and the Egrets

Went on a walk in Alameda, CA, about thirty minutes from where I live on the marsh in Emeryville, to see the egrets nesting. Although we have egrets here, I understand there are about twenty places in this San Francisco Bay area that they actually build a nest and lay their eggs. They nest in colonies and the trees they pick and return to year after year are often called colonized trees because many nests are built in one tree or an several close by trees. Continue reading “Writing and the Egrets” »

Alison Bechtel’s New Book Are You My Mother?

Just saw Alison Bechtel at San Francisco’s Booksmith Height Street. (What a neighborhood to remind us of the 60’s and the “flower children” we once were.) It was a crowd of all ages and orientations and the store actually felt warm and inviting with the energy of the crowd coming from folks that wanted connecting. This is what Alison does for us. She helps us connect with her experiences of family and allows us to appreciate the truth in what we have lived, rather than the illusions of our defense. Continue reading “Alison Bechtel’s New Book Are You My Mother?” »

Writers Need Writers Need Counselors Need Artists and Singers

A friend and I drove over the San Francisco Bay Bridge with a high wind warming last night into San Francisco to hear Jeannette Winterson read from her new book, a memoir, Why Be Happy When You Could Be Normal? You could tell by the crowd’s questions that it was a great group of readers and writer who came out on such a stormy night. Continue reading “Writers Need Writers Need Counselors Need Artists and Singers” »

Memoir: The Scene: Write Better

Your reader is reading your book because the title draws them in. You provide your reader with a powerful emotional experience and great facts as the story develops. If you’re writing a romance, you must create in your reader the illusion that she is falling in love herself. If you’re writing a thriller, you must create in your reader the illusion that he is in mortal danger and has only the tiniest chance of saving his life (and all of humanity). If you’re writing a fantasy, you must create in your reader the illusion that she is actually in another world where all is different and wonderful and magical. If you are writing a memoir, the abuse and triumph is happening to your reader. Continue reading “Memoir: The Scene: Write Better” »