Memoir as Revenge

What should we do when we want revenge in memoir?

 One thing I would caution you not to write about or do is revenge. It is never okay to write for the public with the motive of revenge. Write your own revenge thoughts in a/your journal for yourself to vent your feelings. Revenge seems to come back to you one way or another: the other will see it and be unnecessarily angry, even justifiably angry, or you’ll move past those feelings and wish you hadn’t published such anger. It’s ok to feel that way as part of your beginning healing process but to write it in first person may hurt you in the long run. And the other.

Write a short story fiction about the incident or short story somewhat fictional tale and send these out for publication. Keep the true facts and people and incident private if the motivation is to hurt someone else. Continue reading “Memoir as Revenge” »

Writing Groups

I have been in various writing groups over the past twenty-five years. Some have been very helpful while others have hurt my writing and probably my feelings too which almost made me lose my motivation to continue.

I am lucky I am  a person who will hang in and try to see if the group can work for me imperfectly. I’d ask myself what would I get out of it, not what I thought I need. Let’s try it that way for awhile. For instance, I joined in with group of  long-term male writers whom I had  admired for their activist work with good meaningful subjects in their work. In the group were some men who  wrote in an organized linear way. It worked for them and I liked their work too. Continue reading “Writing Groups” »

Writing All the Time?

There are times I have been too busy to write with a child or my day job, family or social plans. Sometimes all my time goes into the business side of queries, proposals, agents,working with an editor or promotion and planning. The last book of mine that was published, Stirring the Waters took a lot of editing and agreement, back and forth, between the editor and myself.  We spent months on the unusual editing. It had to be read aloud to hear the music and if the beat was correct. Continue reading “Writing All the Time?” »