There are times I have been too busy to write with a child or my day job, family or social plans. Sometimes all my time goes into the business side of queries, proposals, agents,working with an editor or promotion and planning. The last book of mine that was published, Stirring the Waters took a lot of editing and agreement, back and forth, between the editor and myself. We spent months on the unusual editing. It had to be read aloud to hear the music and if the beat was correct. Still, I never loose the feeling that what I like to do and do best is to write. If I’m not writing I consider it a break from the essential part that I love in order to balance my life with other things that call.
The key for me is to know I will return and to have an approximate time I will start writing again. I like to know what I’ll write before a break so it can simmer. I might do some research to learn holes in my own learning. Also I don’t like to start with my desk messy. I clean up the desk and files and then I make sure where I’ll start once back. All in order, ready to start in again.
I wanted to be a woman writer who had a balanced life. Not to let writing be too important that it would drive me mad. I wanted to be sure my ego was out of the way. I wanted more than expressing myself, I wanted to make a contribution to my time. I also thought a woman deserved help and support from her community and I asked for support when I needed it: to help edit or just to let me know if I’m on track: the book work and the personal self : feedback is great. I didn’t have a wife to make my meals or wait on me, but I could eat out often and bring in good healthy ready-made food. I used wandering time to explore restaurants and found good meals at low prices. That was as important as getting regular rest and returning phone calls. I long ago decided I would choose the moderate life to support my writing and it has been a good choice.
Another thing (and this was hard): I wanted to be in writing groups knowing that I would be the outsider. I would be the one who didn’t write ideas directly but rather wanted my readers to use their intuition to know, feel emotions. Many writers haven’t developed that. They depend on logic. That’s fine but they often have a problem wanting your work to be like theirs, whether they know it or not. You have to be able to stick up for what you are trying to do and appeal to the other members to listen and approach your writing as you do..Most writing communities better honor intellect, after all we are exploding in technology to make our country better. Right. Intellect and logic. I am more interested in the other kinds of intelligence like what Toni Morrison uses in Home.
Best in writing,